Define the Problem

As with any project, we have to find a starting point. Where do we begin in changing direction, and becoming the person we are meant to be. I believe the first step in solving a problem, is to address the problem. Simple, right? Not for me. As a person with ADD, that could take months. There are so many problems. How do you choose just one! I had to go back to as far back as I could remember. Now this can be disturbing, because you are triggering your mind to remember something that it has spent years trying to hide. You need silence. You need meditation. You need prayer. It will come to you. It just takes time. Here are some ways to go about it.

1. At what age did you start feeling a certain way
2. Who played a big role in your childhood(when you remember your childhood, who always comes to mind?)

3. Was abuse part of your childhood? 4. Was there any substance abuse present during your childhood? 5. Was disease, or mental illness involved? 6. Were your parents abused as a child? 8. When did you start hiding your emotions, or abuse from your friends, teachers, or other family members? 9. Did you ever dream of running away as a child? 10. Did you ever contemplate suicide growing up?
These are just some questions you can ask yourself, to trigger any memories you may have. Problems usually start in childhood. We are raised pretty much how our parents were raised, and their parents were raised. The vicious cycle continues through the generations for hundreds of years, until you. You have the power to end it. Start a journal and write down all the disturbing memories you had growing up. Things that just stand out. Sometimes when we look at what is written, we can get a clearer picture. This is just the first step in self development. We have to confront the ugly and look it right in the face, before we can begin to heal. Define the problem. What caused the problem. When did the problem start affecting the way you thought, or acted? As painful as revisiting the past can be, it has to be the first step.