Inconsistent people run their lives on emotions. You know who I’m talking about. The people that are way up one day, high on life…and rock bottom the other. It has to be exhausting. They tell us that they are just being real. That it’s real life. Eek!!
They are posting their sometimes too personal info on Facebook, in detail I might add, and you never know what you’re going to get. They post how they are “living the dream”! “Loving life”!! “I’m so blessed”! And then, all of a sudden, the bottom falls out in a matter of hours, and they are” life as I know it is over”! “Life sucks”, or “I’m so done”! Sooooooo exhausting!!
These are the same people that jump in and out of relationships…How he/she is the one. “Finally, my soulmate”! They waste no time in updating their relationship status. They flood the internet with selfies of the two of them so in love. It must be quite a job, going through and deleting them when they break up. Because, there are about 6 different soul mates per year!
These same people always have something wrong with them. They are always sick. They are always tired. They have poor health etc. Well why wouldn’t they? Your mental state too often takes its toll on the human body. We can actually make ourselves physically ill with what and how we think. What you think and say, you usually become. It’s ok to be frustrated, but to vomit every detail in your life, and every emotion you have during the day, is quite ridiculous, and I don’t foresee you getting a handle on your life this way. You need to get control of your emotions, or you will never get control of your life.
Emotions are real…yet they do not reflect our reality. Just because you are having one bad day, does not mean your whole life sucks. Why is there so much drama?
I find people that these people are also the attention seekers. They like the drama and all the comments that enfold from one of their posts. I don’t know if it stems from maybe lack of attention as a child, but all eyes have to be on them at all times. Sorry to say, I usually block these people, or I will unfollow them. I cannot ride their emotional rollercoasters. It literally sucks the life right out of my day. Negativity needs to be reduced, and if it means not seeing someone who is having a horrible day, every day, then I will do it.
A person who is governed by their emotions, is usually always a victim. They live in “victimville”. “Poor me. I am powerless and stuck”. “Why does this always happen to me”? “Why are men such assholes, and take advantage of me”? “I’m a good person. Why does my life suck”? Blah blah blah…Can you tell I don’t hang around in “victimland”?
No one is going to take you seriously, if you are constantly throwing a tantrum. You want to develop character. You want to gain trust. You want to show strength yet be vulnerable. Its ok to say, hey I’m having a bad day today. Not blast every last torrid detail out there for everyone to see. Trust me. You can’t get back first impressions. You are your own best advertisement. If you are into network marketing or maybe started a MLM business, you had better clean up your act immediately. Because you can’t take back what you put on the internet. You can delete it, but there’s always that someone out there who will screenshot it. Trust me.
I’m not saying stay positive 24/7 because that is undoable. Bad things happen to good and bad people. Its just life. There is no getting away from it. Its just a fact. But how you accept and process these things happening to you, and how you let them affect your life is what helps you grow as an adult.
I would trust someone who didn’t fall apart, and have a melt down at least 3 times per week, more than someone who did. Wouldn’t you? Wouldn’t you feel safer in confiding in someone who didn’t blast everybody they know for the world to see on Facebook and Instagram?
Common sense goes a long way. If you are trying to establish a new brand for yourself. If you are starting a new business. If you are trying to grow as a person. You need to be the best billboard that you can be. People aren’t going to remember what you say. They are going to remember what you did. How you reacted. That my friend is living intentional. Think before you speak. Think before you post that post. Think before you react. If you’re going to put yourself out there, shouldn’t it be the best version of yourself? Don’t be hasty, then bitch how nobody can forget, or judge you by a comment you made in the past. Sure, we all make mistakes. But you better get ready to have all of them thrown back at you when you post them all over your social media. Boundaries. Set boundaries for yourself not just others. You need to keep some of you inside. Not throw it all out there for everyone to examine with a microscope. Have a little self-respect.
Your life is a journey. If you are going to share your journey with someone else, then you need to make sure you know the impact it is going to have. Is it helpful? Or are you needy for attention. Are you contributing to someone else’s quality of life? Or are you just adding unnecessary drama and anxiety to their day? Are you sharing a life lesson? Or are you just wanting to bitch about something? Don’t be selfish. Social media is a place to be creative. To show your talents. A place to share your gifts with others. It should not be for name calling, finger pointing, shaming, malice, or slander of someone else’s character.
If you have a problem with your boss, friend, partner, or family member go to them and have a conversation. Communicate. Take care of it in private. Don’t be an ass.
You are in control of your emotions. Be an example.
People will respect you more. They will also trust your opinions. They will start to take you seriously. They won’t see you as such a hot mess. If you are serious about your goals, then keep them to yourself. Share your dreams but be silent about your goals. People love to try and stop you with their judgements and comments. If they don’t know, they won’t get in the way and distract you. Just work your ass off to get there, while keeping a low profile when it comes to your personal life. We will still know you are there. Your real friends aren’t going anywhere. Facebook and Instagram are not reality. Remember that. People give us exactly what they want us to see. There is a lot going on behind every perfect picture. Life is not perfect. Ever.
The Musings Of An Angry Woman 