Little by Little

Well, it is true what they say…time does heal. I am happy to say that after a few days of calm and collective thought, I am not so angry at the world. I am finally accepting my fate. And it is not as bad as I thought it would be. No contact approach has helped immensely! I decided that if he wants to talk about “business” he can schedule an appointment and sit across the table from me and talk to my face, rather than blurt out orders while I’m trying to stock coolers or do my job. He has no right to text, call, or talk to me about anything other than business. I am going to hold myself to it.

The narcissist relies on one-on-one interaction. That is because they don’t want an audience watching while they are being an asshole. They have a false facade to keep up. So they will always want to “talk” in private. NOPE! You can talk to me during business hours, where we will be watched.

The only other option would be communication via email, or text. This way there can be documentation saved if needed. When you converse in private, there is no proof of anything said. And the narc will never admit to saying anything derogatory and hurtful to you. They also don’t want to be held accountable for any promises or affection shown. I am loving this arrangement! I make sure I’m there before or after his arrival every day. And when we have to be in the same room, I sit at a distance and surround myself with people, so that it can be witnessed, or heard, when he approaches.

I am not your friend. I am not your lover. I am strictly here for a paycheck. LEAVE ME ALONE.

Stop letting your guard down. Stop trusting the narcissist. You can never trust them again. Nothing they say is the truth. Nothing they tell you, will ever make sense. Keep business separate from pleasure at all costs. If you find yourself in a situation where you have to interact with them, you need to only do it this way. Protect your energy. Keep everything professional. Cut them off of all private meetings and conversations.

I will heal once again. And I will also be smarter than before in my actions and my words.

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